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okay so ummm let's get it started! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKqV7DB8Iwg&ob=av2e :D
There is this friend of mine(Miss.SJB) who recently organised a party for my other friend(Mr.BT) on his birthday. It went well, we at the tuition enjoyed a lot and Mr.BT was quite happy with what happened.
about a month later......
It's Miss.SJB's b'day and we all(almost all) wish her and guess what? Mr.BT doesn't even remember her b'day. Miss.SJB is quiet for a while but after the class dissolves she starts crying and I after watching this go there to console her, I always had a soft heart for people who cried in front of me(that's probably why I'm broke right now!). So she cries about how she had done so much for that guy(I think she likes him) and that even though she didn't want anything in return she at least expected him to wish her.
STOP!
rewind...........
"she cries..." NO!
forward.........
"anything.." no na!
thoda sa aur forward...
"expected him..." EXACTLY!
That's what I'm gonna talk about today, expectations.
All of us are good people, everyone has a soft corner in his/her/--- heart no matter how hard we pretend to be serious. I am just like that. I try to be the serious guy, the smart and sensible one who knows how to cope with everything in life and in return I expect people to find me as I want them to. Everyone of us expects something good from the people around them and hence they always try to be nice to everyone but what if things go otherwise? What if you never get what you expect? It's always a bitter feeling. You feel bad and then get depressed and we know what happens then.
"Expectation tumhari ek aisi beemari hai jo mai bhi theek nahi kar sakta" that's what Raghu Ram told the contestants on the sets of the famous MTV show Roadies and I agree with that guy. I believe no one can do that. It is you who has to understand. I personally believe that expectations usually(I said usually) lead to catastrophic results. You don't get what you want(often gifts :p ), you feel ignored, no love and stuff.
It's alright to expect from your loved ones and very close friends but then one must not trust everyone with their heart. One should always be smart and alert about things. Like for instance I'm expecting my girlfriend to reply(I guess she is asleep) to my texts but no, she seems unaffected(wait till she reads this, I'm dead then).
What I think one should do is that he/she/--- should stop expecting anything from people because when you do that you are prepared for the worst and anything better than that is more than welcome. It comes as a surprise and not as something you expected so you feel more happy. I know this stuff is easier said than done but I've gained quite some control over this.
Start thinking about yourselves people! Helping every time doesn't help. I did that and I know. Being the nice guy doesn't work anymore and as my mum says "ye duniya aisi hi hai Mehul, sab apna kaam nikalwate hai yahan pe". I think she is right. I may be wrong about everything I wrote in this post but I know she is right. You have to be careful of backstabbers. They leave you the moment their work is done.
Oh no! I'm sorry I wandered off the topic a little.
Miss. SJB now(after having a chat with me) is a very happy girl. Mr. BT finally realized what sin he committed and got her a gift when she least expected it. I bet she was very happy(more than when he would've given it to her on her b'day)
I'm glad to see that my talks help people but then I never expect any of them to help me in the future. This is a cruel world, every man for itself. I know what I said may be wrong and I bet there will be many people who will contradict this but being masochistic(not in the sexual sense) gives you another pleasure. Something you can't get by being nice. Something you get by being Mehul Purohit.
okay so ummm let's get it started! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKqV7DB8Iwg&ob=av2e :D
There is this friend of mine(Miss.SJB) who recently organised a party for my other friend(Mr.BT) on his birthday. It went well, we at the tuition enjoyed a lot and Mr.BT was quite happy with what happened.
about a month later......
It's Miss.SJB's b'day and we all(almost all) wish her and guess what? Mr.BT doesn't even remember her b'day. Miss.SJB is quiet for a while but after the class dissolves she starts crying and I after watching this go there to console her, I always had a soft heart for people who cried in front of me(that's probably why I'm broke right now!). So she cries about how she had done so much for that guy(I think she likes him) and that even though she didn't want anything in return she at least expected him to wish her.
STOP!
rewind...........
"she cries..." NO!
forward.........
"anything.." no na!
thoda sa aur forward...
"expected him..." EXACTLY!
That's what I'm gonna talk about today, expectations.
All of us are good people, everyone has a soft corner in his/her/--- heart no matter how hard we pretend to be serious. I am just like that. I try to be the serious guy, the smart and sensible one who knows how to cope with everything in life and in return I expect people to find me as I want them to. Everyone of us expects something good from the people around them and hence they always try to be nice to everyone but what if things go otherwise? What if you never get what you expect? It's always a bitter feeling. You feel bad and then get depressed and we know what happens then.
"Expectation tumhari ek aisi beemari hai jo mai bhi theek nahi kar sakta" that's what Raghu Ram told the contestants on the sets of the famous MTV show Roadies and I agree with that guy. I believe no one can do that. It is you who has to understand. I personally believe that expectations usually(I said usually) lead to catastrophic results. You don't get what you want(often gifts :p ), you feel ignored, no love and stuff.
It's alright to expect from your loved ones and very close friends but then one must not trust everyone with their heart. One should always be smart and alert about things. Like for instance I'm expecting my girlfriend to reply(I guess she is asleep) to my texts but no, she seems unaffected(wait till she reads this, I'm dead then).
What I think one should do is that he/she/--- should stop expecting anything from people because when you do that you are prepared for the worst and anything better than that is more than welcome. It comes as a surprise and not as something you expected so you feel more happy. I know this stuff is easier said than done but I've gained quite some control over this.
Start thinking about yourselves people! Helping every time doesn't help. I did that and I know. Being the nice guy doesn't work anymore and as my mum says "ye duniya aisi hi hai Mehul, sab apna kaam nikalwate hai yahan pe". I think she is right. I may be wrong about everything I wrote in this post but I know she is right. You have to be careful of backstabbers. They leave you the moment their work is done.
Oh no! I'm sorry I wandered off the topic a little.
Miss. SJB now(after having a chat with me) is a very happy girl. Mr. BT finally realized what sin he committed and got her a gift when she least expected it. I bet she was very happy(more than when he would've given it to her on her b'day)
I'm glad to see that my talks help people but then I never expect any of them to help me in the future. This is a cruel world, every man for itself. I know what I said may be wrong and I bet there will be many people who will contradict this but being masochistic(not in the sexual sense) gives you another pleasure. Something you can't get by being nice. Something you get by being Mehul Purohit.
"not in the sexual sense"
ReplyDeleteHAHA, quicker than light to clarify! :D